Whether it was a summertime fling, crazy cyber courtship or a long-term relationship, break ups can and will turn your world upside down. They will hurt. They will make you cry. They will make you want to curl up under your blanket and disappear. Grieving over a lost love must take its natural course, but you can speed up the process and make survival infinitely easier.
Let Yourself Feel
Suppressing your emotions will only make you bitter and afraid to love again. Chances are that all of the pent up negativity will come flowing out in the future when you least expect it to. That is why you need to let yourself mourn in this very moment. Let the waterworks flow, scream into a pillow, express your anger (but please don۪t punch a wall!), bury your head in your mother۪s lap and wail. Let it all out.Now would be a good time to invest in waterproof mascara.
Get Into Shape
Remember, if you want to feel good, you have to look good. Post your split, it is easy to fall prey to fatty comfort foods, endless blocks of chocolate and too much red wine coupled with terrible sitcoms and bad chick flicks. But when you stomach bloats up and your skin breaks out, these temporary pleasures will only make you feel worse than you already do. Give yourself a week to grieve and then refocus your negative energy and anger into working up a sweat torid your body of the post-breakup lethargy. Eat fresh and wholesome meals, but do not be afraid to treat yourself to a slice of cake once in a while. If you just don۪t feel up to hitting the gym, make the time to mediate for five minutes every day. Breathe deeply and clear your mind of nonsensical thoughts.
Seriously, stop it. There is no point is trying to dissect what has been. Of course, a little bit of obsession with your ex is totally normal, but after a while,you will find that you only feel more depressed after talking about him. Plus, thepeople around you will be rolling their eyes internally as they listen to the same old sob story for the tenth time. If you need to vent, writing your thoughts down in a journal is a good way to make peace with your ex-lover. Once you have healed completely, burn the pages for complete closure.
Make the Change
When you hit rock bottom, the only way that things can go is upwards. The low point after your breakup is the best time to implement the changes that you have been thinking about for a while. Want to get your nose pierced? Do it. Have you had red hair on your mind for a while now? Make the appointment. Start waking up at 6 am, join those creative writing classes you inquired about, make the time to dance, quit smoking, call your parents more often, travel to Europe, redecorate your apartment, start wearing and embracing color, treat yourself to a juice cleanse. Just do it.
Above all, do not stress yourself out with the could-haves. If it should have been, it would have been.